Sorry Otis, yes it is working properly and I was cheering you on for doing it the right way and making me happy! I was afraid that if I stuffed a value at that point it would cause an extra update, but it doesn't, which is good.
I'm sorry, I'll try to be more clear in the future, I don't want to waste your time by trying to be cute
Also, Jim, I'm not using the devexpress grid for edits, it's just display. The edit form has edit controls that share the same entity as the grid. I too wonder why it worked for you out of the box and why I had to do this extra step, most likely it was something the grid is automatically handling?